Marijuana and relationships....

[Shell Presto]

Am I the only person left on the planet who thinks it's bad to smoke pot?<p>Over the past two years, all of my close friends started smoking pot on a "social" basis. The only one who didn't was my boyfriend. He tried it, I got mad at him, and he promised not to do it again.<p>Well, he did it again, and he said he forgot that he made that promise. He also says he doesn't agree with my opinions on the subject. My opinions being that pot is illegal and has detrimental effects on your health, therefore I don't care if other people do it, I don't want the guy potentially raising my kids to do it. I mean, how can you have kids and expect them not to use drugs if you use drugs?<p>I don't need this kind of stress in my life. Am I overeacting? Has it somehow become socially acceptable to do illegal drugs and I just didn't notice?<p>I've been with the guy four years. I don't want to have to dump him, but I feel really strongly about this...<p>I guess I'm just venting, but I would like to know people's opinions on this subject.

[Demon Child]

Try to clearly explain your views on everything on this subject to him and if he still feels like using drugs leave him, simple as that.<br>If he cares more for the drugs than the people in his life he's not worth being around.

[PSP]

As someone who has studied illicit drugs, I can honestly say marijuana is not the horrible thing it is made out to be, so I would suggest to you (not in a condescending way) that some research from a non-biased source may be in order. <p>And this is from someone who has never smoked anything, and very rarely drinks. Also, my parents smoke cigarettes, used to grow cannibis plants and smoke marijuana, and were addicted to prescribed medications, yet I've never done anything. The element that will determine whether your kids were to do anything, in my opinion, is education and honesty. That means you need to become educated yourself. I can recommend some sources if you want, when I get home (at work right now).<p>-Corey

[Lassic's Chllun]

Is it bad to smoke pot? Just ask Ricky Williams. His pot was so important, he gave up dozens of millions of dollars for it.<p>EVERY drug is bad. And cigarettes. And beer. Period.

[Malakai]

To start smoking weed is like a small switch in the railroad tracks. At first the difference is minute and hardly noticeable. You can still see the other track and know where it is going. You stay along side it for a while, in fact. Then the tracks start going off in their respective directions, and a turn here or up comes a mountain there that will deviate the two seemingly similar courses insomuch that before you know it, you don't know where the other track is anymore and soon you don't even know where you're going.<p>I'll add more later, but now I have to go.

[Tekno-Crystal]

I feel the same way Sheel Presto. But not only that, what the heck is the point of smoking pot, cigarettes or any of the other drugs for that matter. My brother smokes pot and cigarettes, but I don't see the point, just a waste of time, money, and a few years off your life. But whats even worse if you're hurting the people around you with second hand smoke.<p>My oppinion is with Demon Child on this one, if he cares more about drugs then the people is his life, he has to go.

[Shell Presto]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by PSP</i><p>As someone who has studied illicit drugs, I can honestly say marijuana is not the horrible thing it is made out to be, so I would suggest to you (not in a condescending way) that some research from a non-biased source may be in order. <p>And this is from someone who has never smoked anything, and very rarely drinks. Also, my parents smoke cigarettes, used to grow cannibis plants and smoke marijuana, and were addicted to prescribed medications, yet I've never done anything. The element that will determine whether your kids were to do anything, in my opinion, is education and honesty. That means you need to become educated yourself. I can recommend some sources if you want, when I get home (at work right now).<p>-Corey<br></blockquote><p>I know that pot isn't absolutely horrible. I've been reading up on side-effects, pot's are a lot like smoking cigarettes.<p>What I'm more worried about him spending money on it, storing it in our home, and the fact that it's illegal to buy it. The last thing I want to do is pay fines, or have my boyfriend in jail. <p>Also, right now he only smokes it at his friends' houses, but one day I'm gonna live with this man, and I don't want anyone smoking or having pot in my apartment. I don't need to find pot in my couch cushions with pocket change, and I don't want my future apartment to smell like pot and have to explain why to my parents and friends.<p>Also, all of my boyfriend's friends seem to have issues as well as their pot-smoking. One took an extra year-and-a-half to graduate high school and he doesn't have a job and is very non-caring about getting one or going to college. I really don't need his behaviour rubbing off on my boyfriend, and parts of it already has. I feel like this friend convincing my boyfriend to do pot again (when this friend also knows I almost dumped him twice over it) is just more proof of his influence.<p>Another friend wanted my boyfriend to buy pot from the city to sell to him so he could sell it to others in his town, essentially making my boyfriend a dealer. My boyfriend never agreed to this, but if he starts smoking with these people when he hangs out with them, I'm worried that his opinion on this might change.<p>I'm not arguing against you PSP, I just wanted to say that I'm worried about more than just the health effects. But I would like some unbiased resources. That would be good.

[Tails99]

Wanna know what is funny? Most of the people in my school is a pusher/seller/drugee. Punks and goths pop pills and smoke. The jocks(athletic but dumb as rock) are the ones who are pot heads. Both smoke and drink. The adminastrators at my school are SO OBLIVIOUS about how many people smoke, pop pills, and drink. Luckily, I am a part of none of those groups.<p>BTW, everyone has gone through Health classes which goes through 4 weeks of studying illicit drugs, drinking, and smoking. Education doesn't decide if you do drugs, it's the people you hang out with, peer pressure, stress in personal lives, among other things.<p>[size=small][Edit by Tails99 on [TIME]1111696399[/TIME]][/size]

[wang_jay]

I dont think it is the best hobby one can have but if its thier own body/life they can do whatever they want.

[Malakai]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by wang_jay</i><br> if its thier own body/life they can do whatever they want.<br></blockquote><p>This is a very dangerous attitude to have, because often it leads to self-abuse and a destructive life style.<p>If one doesn't care about the condition of his/her body, it's really sad what one can do to it. Smoking Mary Jane is the least of all substance abuses that one can do.<p>You know Shell, I don't know what to tell you about your boyfriend. It seems you care about him a lot, so it would be a shame if a small thing like this will lead to a series of regrettable events. I have had a friend whose life was taken in a rapid course downhill by starting with one small puff. It sickens me to think of the addicting power that drugs have once a person succumbs.

[Benoit]

You're not the only one, Shell. I, too, think that smoking pot is bad. Unfortunately these days people's morals have lowered a lot, and drugs are more and more acceptable. I notice this in my environment at school.<p>I don't see the point of smoking anything either. It's bad for your health, and costs money. You achieve nothing with it.<p>I think it's time to have a serious conversation with your boyfriend.<br><p>[size=small][Edit by Benoit on [TIME]1111957402[/TIME]][/size]

[Gipper]

(serious)<br>Tails, I have to agree with your point. funny how so many people talk in school about getting drunk, smoking pot, and having sex not five feet from the principal and they don't do anything. I know all about poeople smoking and drinking. One of my friends have parties during the summer, and there is always lots of pot, lots of beer, lots of cigarettes. They have tried repeatedly to get me to try something, and I always respond with a polite, "No, thank you. I have better things to do than throw away my life." Shell, I go along with everyone--if he cares more about pot than you, dump him. Or if you can't do that, (don't hate me for this advice), find out when this other guy is planning to smoke some pot, and then call the cops on them. Make sure to send your boyfriend off for something. Great plan with a nice side effect: Get rid of your problem, and get a new (insert thing you want here) all at once.

[LaconianShot]

Marijuana, while being one of the "softer" drugs, is still not something you want to get involved with. Essentially, it's the start of a series of bad choices. It may seem harmless, but it in fact is not. Of course, this is all rather redundant... Malakai and Tails hit the nail on the head.<p>Then again, how can we say drugs are bad? Hunter S. Thompson, one of the greatest writers/journalists of our time, lived until he was 72 years old, and was a notoriously heavy drinker as well as being a dope and acid fiend. To be noted, he did not die a drug related death (well, arguably). He lived until a respectable age.<br>However, I digress... HST himself said that he was suprised he lived through the choices that he made in his life. Personally, I wouldn't go on an acid binge simply because he lived through it... he was a rare case.

[Gipper]

(serious)<br>Yeah, there are the occasional folks who can get away with it, like Pink Floyd or George Carlin. But by and large, it's stupid to do drugs.

[LegoMuskCat]

Drugs of any way, shape, or form are terrible. They ruin people's lives and are a great risk to your physical and mental health. The tear apart and kill relationships with family, friends, anyone...<p>I loathe them greatly. And I think that people are stupid for trying or touching the stuff in the first place...<p>This is just my opinion on the topic.