Why do girls love the cocky, arrogant guys?

[ThePeaGuy]

I don't mean to generalise as it's not my intention, but why do YOU think that girls go for the arrogant, cocky guys? Is it because they are alpha males, who exibit dominant traits that will prove beneficial to females (who are consciously unaware) to produce the next generation of healthy, non-recessive human beings?<p>Well, what do you guys and gals here think?<p><p>[size=small][Edit by ThePeaGuy on [TIME]1126723706[/TIME]][/size]

[zoothe]

One reason could be that cockiness and/or arrogance can come off as confidence to people sometimes (though I tend to think that they are really actually signs of low self esteem). Confidence is very attractive to women, and there you have it. Just one reason among many...

[Nightmare]

none of the girls I know do that ...

[ThePeaGuy]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by Nightmare</i><p>none of the girls I know do that ... <br></blockquote><p>You mean that the girls in your area go for the omega types -- the nice guys, the ones that finish last?<p>I wonder if the alpha females go for the omega males (which they do) because they show a sense of security?<p>EDIT: Where's Mono when you need him? <p>[size=small][Edit by ThePeaGuy on [TIME]1126708411[/TIME]][/size]

[Nightmare]

yeah I live in a big college town and the girls either don't go for guys at all or go for the nice ones

[Lord Khyron]

Many times, a girl will date that type, because secretly deep down they believe they can change the guy. Most females will never learn from their mistakes, ingrained in the delusion that they love the guy.<p>Really, they are in love with the fact of being loved. They can't be happy unless someone loves them, even if it's a lie just to get screwed. Many girls fall into this category. To be loved is most girl's dream, and so they will make it come true any way possible.<p>The circle of violence explains this well in abusive relationships. Just do research.<p>The point is, most girls who go for the arrogant/cocky type want to be loved and it is a sign of confidence. <p>To explain would be to take up 4 posts explaining the psychology behind that.<p>All you need to know is that YOU CAN get any type of girl you want in the world. Provided you have the personality and sometimes money.<p>Many beautiful girls never get asked out, because guys think they are already taken. Take a chance!<p>P.S. On second though, I won't explain the psychology of it, certain people will denounce it as crap, when it is true. SO research it yourselves. <p><p>[size=small][Edit by Lord Khyron on [TIME]1126719107[/TIME]][/size]

[ThePeaGuy]

<blockquote>To explain would be to take up 4 posts explaining the psychology behind that.</blockquote> <p>I'm somewhat intrigued with the psychology behind it all, though. Care to try and explain it anyway?<br><p>[size=small][Edit by ThePeaGuy on [TIME]1126719797[/TIME]][/size]

[Xian Shade]

Damn it Nightmare, where do you live? I'm moving there. <p>Anyway, it's not 'women' that look for cocky guys. it's females. Women are the ones that pick the nice guys BECAUSE they're nice guys. When females are younger, they tend to pick the cocky/handsome/rich guys because they believe they will be the most fun at the time. They may think they can stay with the person indefinitely, but then they may get lazy and depend on him. Once they get dumped however, they will feel lost, and not know where things went wrong. In comes the nice guy to console and to comfort, wondering if he might have a chance now that she's seen her error.<p>nope.<p>They must try again, because the nice guy, while generally stable, is someone permanent. They don't realize they just want fun, so they don't find the 'nice guys' attractive until the women themselves no longer believe they're attractive. It's a game of looks and actions, the nice guys eventually claiming the prize in the long-run (usually). It's sad, but I went through a similar situation getting a girl out of an abusive relationship. Told her how I felt after she was comfortable again, but she wasn't interested. Sure enough, she's going after the same type of guy again!

[Coldfury]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by ThePeaGuy</i><p>I don't mean to generalise as it's not my intention, but why do YOU think that girls go for the arrogant, cocky guys? Is it because they are alpha males, who exibit dominant traits that will prove beneficial to females (who are consciously unaware) to produce the next generation of healthy, non-recessive human beings?<p>Well, what do you guys and gals here think?<p>[size=small][Edit by ThePeaGuy on [TIME]1126723706[/TIME]][/size]<br></blockquote><p>I think it's 'cus they don't say goofy shit like that.<p>Edit: And F$&# yeah, I'm an alpha male.<p>[size=small][Edit by Coldfury on [TIME]1126743674[/TIME]][/size]

[ThePeaGuy]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by Coldfury</i><p>I think it's cus they don't say goofy shit like that.<p></blockquote><p>Meh.<p>EDIT: And kiss my cribs, I'm Omega.<br><p>[size=small][Edit by ThePeaGuy on [TIME]1126743733[/TIME]][/size]

[Coldfury]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by ThePeaGuy</i><p>EDIT: And kiss my cribs, I'm Omega.<p></blockquote><p>Nothing wrong with that - you make the best of what you have, and you should never have need to want more.

[Nightmare]

haha I live in good old state college Pennsylvania. Home of Pennsylvania State university and The PSU college football team.. but back to the topic. It's strange here. When you're around a college town it seems like the girls will take the right guy that can support them. In most cases the guys around here are nice and the only ones that are arrogant and cocky are the ones that are either crazy football fans or some (not all) of the frat boys. The general population around here is downright polite. The other day a guy asked me for a cigarette (I don't smoke) and then said well thanks man it's a good thing you don't smoke but thanks for the help. It's just little things like that that are displayed everywhere around here, and the women are the same way. I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and we've NEVER had an arguement or disagreed on anything and in my english class the girls greatly out number the boys ( I am one of two ) and they're all nice to me. I don't even know any of them ! I think the attitude of girls and boys is greatly affected by living conditions and location.<p>a lot of this post was rambling about my town but just compare it to your own town and note the differences and that could very well be why the people are so different

[ThePeaGuy]

<blockquote><i>Originally posted by ThePeaGuy</i><p>EDIT: And kiss my cribs, I'm Omega.<p></blockquote><p><blockquote><i>Originally posted by Coldfury</i><p>Nothing wrong with that - you make the best of what you have, and you should never have need to want more.<br></blockquote><p>Actually, I don't think of my pecking status as a negative thing, but thank's for the reassurance, though.<br>

[Lord Khyron]

<blockquote><br>Nothing wrong with that - you make the best of what you have, and you should never have need to want more.<br></blockquote> <p>The motto of a depressed person with no self esteem. Such a wonderful thing! <p>That motto is for someone who can never get better, and convinces himself so far as to be delusional that what he has is the best he can get. <p>It's the same thing with girls who date guys who abuse them, because they think that is what they deserve and will always get. <p>Settle for something that doesn't fit your standards, and you're forever doomed.

[Coldfury]

<br><blockquote><i>Originally posted by Lord Khyron</i><p> <p>The motto of a depressed person with no self esteem. Such a wonderful thing! <p>That motto is for someone who can never get better, and convinces himself so far as to be delusional that what he has is the best he can get. <p>It's the same thing with girls who date guys who abuse them, because they think that is what they deserve and will always get. <p>Settle for something that doesn't fit your standards, and you're forever doomed. <br></blockquote><p>God damned pessimists!! Stop pissing in people's Cheerios!<br>Those kind of people turn into those old hateful people who throw rocks at the paper boy wishing they had lived life instead of spending their time *****ing how bad they had it.<br><p>[size=small][Edit by Coldfury on [TIME]1126754111[/TIME]][/size]